A gorgeous floral scene blooms up a midweight scuba shift dress
styled with an elegant jewel neckline and boxy elbow-length sleeves.
36 1/2" regular length (size 8); 34" petite length (size 8P).
Back zip closure.
Jewel neck.
Elbow-length sleeves.
Lined.
95% polyester, 5% spandex.
Machine wash cold, tumble dry low.
By Eliza J; imported.
Dresses.
36 1/2" regular length (size 8); 34" petite length (size 8P).
Back zip closure.
Jewel neck.
Elbow-length sleeves.
Lined.
95% polyester, 5% spandex.
Machine wash cold, tumble dry low.
By Eliza J; imported.
Dresses.
Dressing is both practical and emotional. What we choose to wear on any given day is more of an emotional decision that most of us will admit.
Why do you choose something and then change your mind?
Why does dread fill your heart and you dress reluctantly?
Do you ever wish you could get rid of all your clothes and start again differently?
We dress to present an image to the people we meet and it isn’t always how we feel inside. I believe there are three main reasons why women do not dress to shine confidently as their true selves. There are many parts of us which stay hidden. Why?
Here are my thoughts on this subject based on my life experiences, observations and insights.
You are Dressing to Please or Appease Someone Else
Big hug between mother & daughterYou usually dress to please or appease someone important in your life or work – parent, partner, family, friend, boss, client or peer group. We have all done it.
When meeting those close to us we often dress different to our true selves because we claim that we love them and want their approval. It’s not love. We are appeasing them because we fear their withdrawal of love from us. We do not want to be criticized or rejected. In seeking love through our dressing, we often end up with angry feelings we hold inside. I’ve been there. Have you? Are you still there?
Many times we misjudge. As an Image Consultant I have learnt that they’re not always rejecting us. They are seeing us through their perceptions. I wrote on this in ‘Why are you all dolled up’. Teach others who you are or stay angry and rebellious.
You Are Dressing to Hide & Protect Yourself
Hiding behind a dressing maskMany women dress to hide and protect themselves, either temporarily or permanently.
Temporary happens when we are recovering from something and giving our body a chance to heal. This dressing can become comfortable and we need to recognise when it is time to be ourselves once more.
Permanent is when you are protecting yourself from either physical or emotional hurt. The physical or emotional trauma has carved deep and you may feel less than normal or ashamed. You are hiding under unattractive and shapeless clothes so no-one sees your pain. Hopefully you will not be hurt again (especially by domestic or sexual violence or hurtful comments). For many women it can become comfortable to hide in this ‘victim’ personality.
Sometimes you come out of it yourself; sometimes the time is not right yet and sometimes you need professional help before you can move on with a lighter heart.
You have the Self-Esteem. You Do Not Have the Skills
Things changeLife and work is ever changing. Sometimes it is forced on us and sometimes we choose to change.
There is no point coming to me unless you are committed to making dressing changes to be the woman you now want to be. We are not trained psychologists. When redundancy, retirement, promotion or other circumstances change and you want to revamp your wardrobe or you, that’s when you come to learn from a Personal Stylist with an Image training background.
Learning to de-clutter, revitalise and truly dress in colours, styles and accessories that reflect your body and your personality can precede or follow change in other areas of your life. Either way you create space and a change of attitude that opens new opportunities for you.
Last Words
Who is the woman behind your clothes? Are we seeing the woman you want to be or a woman protecting herself? I hope it is the first.
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